Bridal Jewellery for Two Brides: Earrings, Necklaces and Hair Pieces That Go Together
Two brides look best when their jewellery shares one link and each piece suits the bride wearing it. Agree on one thing, such as the metal colour, pearls or the same earrings, then choose necklaces and earrings for each neckline and each frame. This page covers two dresses, a dress and a suit, two suits, pearls, hair pieces and something borrowed for two brides.
Plan two looks as one picture
Two brides are seen side by side all day: walking in, at the vows, in every photo. The jewellery each of you wears should suit your own outfit and still sit well next to the other bride's. The simplest way to get there is to agree on one shared link, such as the metal colour, pearls or one repeated shape, and then size every piece to the person wearing it.
Some brides keep their outfits secret from each other. In The Knot and Q.Digital LGBTQ Weddings Study 2017, a US survey of 821 people, only 17% of women said they showed their wedding-day look to their partner before the day. If you are keeping your outfits secret, you need a way to plan jewellery without seeing each other's clothes.
In a WeddingWire guide to lesbian wedding attire, Whitney Teal suggests asking one trusted person to see both outfits, agreeing on a colour palette and the shades of white first, and comparing fabric swatches. The same trusted person can check jewellery. Give them a photo of each neckline and each piece, and let them tell you if the two looks fit together.
Three outfit pairings
Two dresses
With two dresses, the necklines usually decide the jewellery. If both of you have open necklines, two necklines with two necklaces can look busy in photos, so one bride might wear a necklace while the other wears earrings in the same metal and stone. If your dresses are different in style, a shared metal or a shared stone keeps the two looks connected.
A dress and a suit
The bride in a dress often carries more jewellery at the neck and ears, and the bride in a suit carries it at the lapel, the collar and the wrists. Link the two by using the same metal, or the same stone, in different places: pearl earrings on one bride and pearl cufflinks on the other, for example. Our page on jewellery for a bride in a suit covers the suit side in detail.
Two suits
With two suits, the jewellery is small but easy to see, because it sits on plain fabric. Choose one detail to share, like matching lapel pins or the same chain at an open collar, and let the rest differ so you look like two people.
Metal colour
Your engagement rings and wedding bands are the pieces you will wear for years, so start from their metal. If both rings are the same colour, match your earrings and necklaces to it. If one of you wears white gold and the other yellow gold, each bride can match her own ring, and a piece that combines both colours can tie the two looks together. Our page on how to mix metals shows how to wear two colours at once.
White fabrics come in many shades. Before you decide, hold each metal against a swatch of each outfit in daylight, and choose the one you both like next to both fabrics.
Pearls
Pearls suit bridal wear and work for dresses and suits. They are also soft. GIA gives pearl a Mohs hardness of 2.5 and lists hair spray, perfume, cosmetics and even sweat among the things that can damage it. On the wedding morning, put pearls on after hair and makeup are finished. GIA also says to wipe pearls with a soft, clean cloth after each wearing.
Pearls make an easy shared link: pearl studs for one bride and a pearl pendant for the other, or the same pearl earrings in two sizes. Our pearl jewellery guide explains freshwater and saltwater pearls, and we offer pearl restringing for an older strand you want to wear.
Coloured stones and your wedding colours
Coloured stones can link your jewellery to the flowers, the wedding colours or each bride's birthstone. If one bride's dress has blush tones and the other's suit is navy, a stone that sits between the two, such as a pale sapphire, can belong to both looks. Think about life after the wedding too. GIA describes emerald, opal and tanzanite as gems that are not tough, and suggests choosing jewellery that is less likely to take knocks for them. Earrings and pendants suit these softer stones better than rings or bracelets. Our birthstones guide lists the stone for each month.
Scale: pieces that suit each bride
Two brides can be different heights, with different face shapes and different frames. Matching jewellery in the exact same size can look right on one and too large or too small on the other. Choose the same design in two sizes, or the same style of piece with a different weight. In photos, the goal is two looks with the same level of detail, so that neither bride's jewellery looks much heavier than the other's. Our guide to earrings for your face shape helps each bride pick her own size.
Necklines and earrings
- V-neck: a pendant that falls into the V repeats the line of the dress.
- Sweetheart or strapless: a necklace close to the base of the neck, or larger earrings and no necklace.
- High neck or halter: skip the necklace and wear earrings only.
- Off the shoulder: a short necklace or a pair of drop earrings.
- Square neck: a short pendant on a fine chain, or studs.
- Suit with an open collar: a short chain inside the collar.
- Suit with a shirt and tie: earrings only at the face, with the rest of the jewellery on the tie and cuffs.
Our necklace length guide shows where each length sits on the body. If your earrings are heavy or you will be hugging guests all day, read about earring backs and choose a back that holds.
One bold piece each, or one shared
Each bride can wear one bold piece, such as large earrings, a wide bracelet or a long pendant, with everything else kept quiet. Or you can share one bold idea between you. Wedding planner Mindy Weiss suggests a shared accessory, like matching flower crowns, and says that even a simple shared detail, like a V-neckline or a birdcage veil, can make two looks feel connected. In jewellery, that shared detail can be the same earrings on both brides, or two necklaces with the same stone.
Avoid two bold pieces on one person. A large necklace and large earrings worn together compete for attention, and in photos next to a bride with simpler jewellery, the pair can look uneven.
Hair pieces
Combs, pins and hair vines sit close to the earrings, so match their metal to the earrings and keep their size in proportion. If one bride wears a veil, choose a comb that holds the veil and does not pull it down. A bride with short hair can skip hair pieces and wear an ear cuff or climber earring in the same metal. If you want a hair piece made to match your other jewellery, ask us what we can make.
Something borrowed, times two
For the wedding rhyme "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue", Wikipedia records its first two lines in an 1871 magazine story and the full rhyme in a newspaper wedding report from 1876. With two brides, there are two of each.
Ideas for two brides:
- Each bride borrows one piece from the other bride's family, such as a brooch, a bracelet or a pair of earrings.
- One heirloom is shared, with each bride wearing it for part of the day.
- Something blue can be a sapphire. GIA rates sapphire a 9 on the Mohs scale, so a sapphire piece can be worn on the day and kept for daily wear after.
Before you wear an older piece, have a jeweller check the clasp, the prongs that hold any stones, and the earring posts. If you want to change an heirloom after the wedding, read our article on resetting a family heirloom.
On the morning
Put jewellery on last, after hair, makeup and the outfit. Give one person both brides' jewellery in labelled bags, so nothing is mixed up between two dressing rooms. If you are not sure your engagement rings fit the look, our page on engagement rings for two women covers how the rings pair.
Earrings for two brides
Studs, drops and pearls that can be worn as one pair each or as the same earrings in two sizes.
Nila HoopsFrom $65 CAD
Timeless Medium HoopsFrom $70 CAD
Timeless Large HoopsFrom $75 CAD
Nova HoopsFrom $70 CAD
Gleaming Shamrock Huggie EarringsFrom $735 CAD
Moonfall StudFrom $65 CAD
Elegant StudFrom $60 CAD
4 Prong Lab Grown Diamond Stud EarringsFrom $385 CAD
Sources
- The Knot Worldwide, Personalization Prevails and Traditions Get A Twist Among Same-Sex Weddings, According to The Knot & Q.Digital LGBTQ Weddings Study 2017, 2017-06-23, survey of 821 US respondents. Accessed 2026-10-18.
- WeddingWire, Lesbian Wedding Attire Decoded: Fashion Ideas for Your Big Day (Whitney Teal), 2018-04-26. Accessed 2026-10-18.
- GIA, Pearl Care and Cleaning Guide. Accessed 2026-10-18.
- Mindy Weiss, How to Choose Your Same Sex Wedding Attire. Accessed 2026-10-18.
- Wikipedia, Something old. Accessed 2026-10-18.
- GIA 4Cs, More than the Mohs Scale: Understanding Gem Durability, 2016-03-14. Accessed 2026-10-18.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should two brides wear matching jewellery?
Two brides can wear different jewellery and still look like a pair by sharing one link. Pick one thing, such as the metal colour, pearls or the same earrings, and let the rest suit each outfit. Matching every piece can look like a uniform, while one shared detail looks planned and still lets each bride look like herself.
What jewellery goes with two different wedding dresses?
Jewellery for two different wedding dresses should follow each neckline and share one detail between the brides. For example, a V-neck dress takes a pendant and a strapless dress takes a short necklace or larger earrings. Make both sets in the same metal or with the same stone, so the two brides look connected in photos even though the dresses differ.
Do both brides have to wear the same metal colour?
Both brides can wear different metal colours, as long as each bride's jewellery matches her own ring. If one wears yellow gold and the other white gold, a piece that combines both colours, worn by one or both of you, ties the looks together. Hold each metal against your fabric swatch in daylight before you decide.
What earrings go with a strapless wedding dress?
A strapless wedding dress leaves the neck and shoulders open, so earrings with some size, such as drops or larger studs, suit it well. You can add a necklace close to the base of the neck, but if the earrings are large, skip the necklace so the two pieces do not compete. Choose a secure earring back for a long day.
What necklace goes with a V-neck wedding dress?
A V-neck wedding dress looks best with a pendant that falls inside the V and follows its line. Choose a chain length that lets the pendant sit above the point of the V, with some fabric showing below it. A drop pendant or a single stone on a fine chain repeats the shape of the neckline without hiding the dress.
Can two brides both wear pearls?
Two brides can both wear pearls, and pearls are an easy shared link for a dress and a suit. One bride can wear pearl studs and the other a pearl pendant, or both can wear the same earrings in two sizes. GIA gives pearl a Mohs hardness of 2.5, so store each piece apart from harder jewellery.
When should I put on pearl jewellery on the wedding day?
Put pearl jewellery on last on the wedding day, after hair spray, perfume and makeup are finished. GIA lists hair spray, perfume, cosmetics and sweat among the things that can damage pearls. After the wedding, wipe the pearls with a soft, clean cloth before you put them away, and never clean them in an ultrasonic cleaner.
How do we coordinate jewellery if we keep our outfits a secret from each other?
Two brides who keep their outfits a secret can coordinate jewellery through one trusted person who sees both looks. Agree on the metal colour and your shades of white together first. Then send the trusted person a photo of each neckline and each piece of jewellery, and let them check that the two looks fit together before the day.
What should two brides use for something borrowed?
Two brides can each borrow a piece of jewellery from the other bride's family, which joins the two families on the day. Another idea is one heirloom worn by each bride for part of the day. Before wearing any borrowed piece, have a jeweller check the clasp, the prongs and the earring posts, because clasps and prongs wear down with age.
Should my wedding earrings and necklace be the same metal as my ring?
Wedding earrings and a necklace in the same metal as your engagement ring keep your look consistent, because your ring shows in every photo of your hands. If your engagement ring has a coloured stone, you can repeat that stone in earrings or a pendant. The diamond shape can differ from piece to piece, since the metal colour is what ties the set together.
What hair pieces go with gold earrings for a bride?
Hair pieces for a bride wearing gold earrings should be in the same gold colour, because the comb or pin sits close to the ears. Keep the hair piece in proportion to the earrings: small earrings with a fine comb, larger earrings with a simple pin. A bride with short hair can wear an ear cuff in the same gold instead.
How do I keep two brides' jewellery from looking uneven in photos?
Two brides' jewellery looks even in photos when both looks carry the same level of detail. If one bride wears a large necklace and the other only small studs, the pair can look uneven. Choose the same design in two sizes, or give each bride one bold piece, so neither look is much heavier than the other.